Thanksgiving and feeling deep gratefulness are two different things.
Are you convalescing after a festive period full of family visits, indulgence and unwrapping of presents? If yes, chances are you will have spent a great deal of your time saying things like ‘Thank you’. Or ‘Ta’. Or ‘Thanks, Auntie Jane, I feel very much like a stuffed turkey myself.’
Giving thanks is a common social convention. We are often truly thankful for the tangible presents we get at specific times of year. Even if we have learned to expect and to deserve them.
But, now the festivities have passed, what of other, unearned gifts? Moments of beauty, like a falling flower petal. The chance glimpse of a shooting star. The freedom of riding a bike. All of them have the power to lift us with their unconditional, unexpected nature.
It’s our gratefulness for these that generates a wave of happiness. That’s the proposal of David Steindl-Rast in the 2013 TED talk ‘Want to be happy? Be grateful’. Happiness follows on from being fully aware of the gift we’ve been presented with – the essence of being grateful.
Read more…